it’s not about saying what’s healthy and what’s not. Fat acceptance/Body Acceptance is about reminding people that being skinny isn’t the only way to be a person.

I watch my mother struggle with her weight constantly. She eats well, she does her best to exercise even when she’s in pain. She’s stressed and she’s miserable because her whole life she’s been told that her weight makes her less of a person. It breaks my heart to see anyone feel like they not a worthy of others’ affections or respect simply because of weight.

Telling someone they are a piece of trash because of their weight doesn’t help them. It doesn’t make the weight magically disappear. Nor does it motivate anyone to work out more. Why would anyone want to put in the effort after they have been made to feel like less of a person? Tearing other people down does not help them.
Stress eating is a problem for a lot of people. Feel bad, eat something indulgent, feel kind of better. When you tear down someone for their weight they will feel bad, and they will want to stress eat, and then they will feel even worse for wanting to stress eat, and that can lead to even worse results.

Fat acceptance creates a positive environment where people can feel like they are NOT worthless. When you feel okay with yourself, when you realize that you still matter as a person, then it is easier to live a healthy life. And sorry to burst some folks’ bubbles (no I’m not, haha) but being skinny does not automatically mean you’re healthy- take it from this skinny gal with my terrible cholesterol and all that- and being fat does not automatically make a person unhealthy. Every body is unique, and health is not as black and white as people think. It’s not a weight bracket.
Being 500lbs may not be healthy, but being miserable and full of self loathing on top of that will only make it worse. People have to feel like they are worth the effort to begin with. Being told that you are disgusting, ugly, not worthy of respect- that doesn't motivate most people to make a positive change in their life, if anything it's more likely to motivate them to end it.

So cut that negative, fat shaming, nasty talk out!!!!

I also just want all of you to know that you matter. I care about you, and I'm always available. I will not tell you how to loose weight unless you ask about it. Because it doesn't matter what you weigh, who you are inside is what will touch people's lives, and being skinny doesn't make up for someone being an absolute cunt.

With love and vitrol,

One mean skinny bitch