Regarding the term “Cuntboy”

I made a journal like this about a year ago but I've accumulated a lot of watchers since then and I got to experience a lovely spike in blood pressure tonight because of yet more ~cuntboy~ art. In light of that, I figured I would post Last Year's Journal Version 2.0, incorporating some of my additional thoughts on the matter that evolved through last year's discussion to make this more informative for people of non-trans* or non-intersex experience.

"Cuntboy" is a term that is grossly offensive to the vast majority of transmen and intersexed people. Aside from being used regularly as a slur, referring to someone by a term focusing on their genitalia alone is tasteless and crude in any situation. Think it's only fantasy? You're wrong. It goes farther than fantasy -- people take their fetishes and apply them to real people out of ignorance or bigotry or sheer fetishism, thereby objectifying others who fit this physical type. In my own experience as a transman, having to put up with hearing it applied (incorrectly) to myself and FTMs is infuriating because it highlights a part of our bodies that most of us would kill to get rid of and ignores our identities and personalities in favor of labeling us only as a fuckable hole. This is a problematic and incorrect thought process when it comes to any gender identity. A huge number of transmen don't want to have anything to do with vaginal penetration at all for reasons of personal taste or body dysphoria and to characterize us as a group in this manner is damaging. Additionally, protip: many transmen are tops or switches, myself included, just as any other man might be a top or a switch or a bottom in any combination.

To those who might tell me to grow thicker skin: it's not a question about the thickness of my skin, and it rankles me when that's the first thing people jump to when these subjects are brought up. I wouldn't stand by and let someone call a person of color by any one of the myriad of slurs that have been applied to them, nor would I keep silent if another LGBT person were being slandered in front of me. Why should I take a backseat and not speak up for my own minority group? The only way to teach people what is and isn't okay is to take vocal exception and offer them correction.

As usual, anyone using this term on my art will be blocked from my page. Use the slur around me in person at your own risk.

In other news, hello to all new watchers! I hope to meet some of you at AnthroCon. I will be wearing this badge.

EDIT TO ADD: I do not like to speak for groups I am not personally representative of, but Threetails has chimed in on this from the MTF perspective and her opinion should also be heard. Her comment is on FA.