I figure I can write this, now that I am back from voting in Quebec's elections.

For people who were worried because of my journal yesterday, I just wished to say that everything went as well as they could have. As it ends up, the relatives who had begun to harass my grandmother didn't show up, having been instead to my grandfather's land where the rest of the family was. While nothing bad happened, their behavior still seemed weird for most who were there.
At the end of the day, though, this only reassured my grandmother in her decision to remain home because she couldn't bear to face this relative's daughters(whom, for all we know, were mostly uninvolved in the rift and conflict that have torn the family).

It's been hard and something unexpected that things reached this point. My grandmother is what I would like to call an "old school christians". By this, however, I do not mean she is the accusative, fire and brimstone sermons kind. Very much the opposite.
She's the soft spoken kind of christians, the one I have seen forgive anything who is loath of conflict and who would basically wishes everyone in her family could get along together. If I was to ever name a stereotype from the Bible, I would compare her to the father of the wayward son, who is always there for his son when he returns no matter how much ill his son had done to them, always ready to forgive them.

For years, despite the growing conflict which she perceived, she always tried to speak to others to try to give the relative a chances if not to see things from their point. Always trying to not favor anyone over another. But lately, hat relative once had begun to shown up at my grandparent's house, always when my grandfather was away working on his land and my grandmother was alone.

Recently, in the last time this relative showed up to my grandparent's place to "talk" to my grandmother, she's launched such attack aimed at my father and others of their siblings, implying that my grandparents could not longer take care of take care of themselves(despite my grandfather, even at 81 years old, being able to take care of a multiple acres in size on his own better than many men younger than him amongst other things) with such barely held vitriol that my grandmother, the woman I'd just described above, demanded she leave the house and that she did not want to see her anymore.

I'm not sure what exactly was said to get my grandmother into such a state. I have some ideas, but I'd rather not think too much about it I guess. But yesterday, spending the day with her and my sister I could see it still weighed on her.

Thankfully, she managed to get some sleep while we were there. Which is a good thing from what I managed to gather for it was something which had been in short supply for her lately because of all that's happened in the family.

It's almost painful though, to see how this has gotten to her with how little respite those relatives would give her.

With how many amongst my father's sibling(and "ironically", how most of them are the ones causing the most of this conflict) have bee in financial troubles in recent years, my grandfather has decided to look into his notary(not sure what the equivalent is in the state, but in Quebec a "notaire" ontop of doing stuff like recording wills and so on can also serve as a legal advisor due to their formation in the legal code of the province) to see how to go about personally designating in advance whom should take care of him and my grandmother as well as their affairs should they eventually be unable to take care of themselves for real.... rather than leave it to a "family council", of which many of the members amongst his kids are people who would wishes(and sometimes directly pressured my grandparents toward that direction, claiming they should get their own "share" of my grandparent's legacies) my grandparent's to sell their land or such to solves their own financial issues.

It's painful to see stuff like my grandfather's land, which he purchased, maintained and worked so much on to make it a land all of his children, and their children's children could go to and benefit from.... when so many of his children want nothing more to sell it, thinking that it would magically solves all of their debts and other financial issues when once split between all descandents it would barely give them enough to even just buy a brand new car.

They'd sacrifice something that can be a legacy to be passed from generations to generations, for everyone, in the hopes of short term gains that wouldn't even fix any of the problems while leaving nothing for all that follow afterward. And that's just for this one point of the conflict amongst others. As there has been others.

Anyway, sorry about this rant. It's been a situation that's been dragging around for years, and it's painful to see how ugly it's getting.

If it wasn't for wishing to be there to help support my grandparents during through all this, sometimes I'd wish nothing more than to leave the province just to get away from this conflict altogether,

Anyway... enough rant, Expect journal about commissions and schedules update soon. I might take this one down later.