If it means anything I don't think any of this is remotely assholish at all, I'm more discouraged by the fact you have to say it. I can't imagine shoving myself on people to buy my art without them first stating they were looking to buy art honestly.

And yeah I get you on the "advertise me" thing, coming form anyone who is not a close friend of mine, it rubs me really wrong that a person literately wants to use me or the fallowing i worked for for personal gain, not to say I have a remote fallowing to speak of regardless and yet people still come to me asking for me to advertise them. It just makes me incredibly uncomfortable and makes me feel like the person sees me as more of an object than another person.

this does not make you a bad person at all. advertising is one thing, going to people's personal spaces and saying "buy my stuff" to them directly is just inappropriate. that is not on you. i got a couple rare ones on fa back in the day and i seriously just ignored them. if anything that makes me want to commission them even less. i don't like being pressured into things and making someone feel bad or guilty for not being able to is just crappy. i'm sorry you had this happen enough to where you had to say something about it x.x

also, please don't stop arting ;o; even your silly fun little doodles always make me happy <3 if you need a break, that's fine of course, but please don't give it up cause...i love nirearts a lot ;o; <3333

When artists ask me to buy their commissions, like -- I remember following someone back on fa, and they were like, immediately asking if I'd like a commission, and I was like -- I got no money for this. And that artist was just very much so, like their whole thing it felt like, was trying to sell their art. I think they cared about their art, so it wasn't like they were just making it to sell -- but man did they push their art. I eventually unwatched them. They were doing it wrong.

Also this doesn't seem assholish to me.

Also did they say anything specific that was like "here I can make you better art" or something like that, or is it the way you feel when anyone asks that, as it they were implying but didn't say it overtly?

Hard sales tactics are tacky period.

I really hope you didn't consider my question about Nire that I sent you awhile back on FA as something like this. When you didn't respond I assumed you were insulted or weirded out, but actually I just wanted to draw you gift art =\ that's fine though. I do agree with what you're saying.

I'd be getting irritated too. That's really odd that they seem to be hounding you.

Nothing in this is assholosh. The behavior that has lead to the need for this journal is tho :/

Glad you know your boundries and are setting them! -super high five-

You're no butthole.
I agree with the other commenters; those people are rather rude. And even if you'd stand alone with your opinion, you have all the rights to feel that way. :>
That door-to-door type of art selling sound a bit like telling someone you want to make gift art for them but you want them to pay you for it. Eugh.

Wow, I didn't realize some people were so pushy about these kinds of things. It really is pretty rude of them to be bothering you to commission them. It really takes the fun out of buying art when someone is coming around like a door to door salesman trying to get you to commission them. Like Sakovri said, it's like trying to get someone to pay for their own gift.

I think some people need to realize the best advertisement can be their own customers. I don't pay as much attention to general endorsements of 'just because they asked me to' as I do to people saying they had a great experience commissioning a particular artist.

<3 hun not bad of you at all. If anything those people should be ashamed. An just want to take advantage of you. You are the kindest loving soul I know an I'm glad to know you. We don't get to talk much recently but I think about you a lot an browse through your tumbler to see whats new an interesting on your plate.
You are a wonderful artist an its someone's selfishness that causes you to feel that way then fuck them. I've looked up to your art so long that it makes me do the wtf face when I hear stuff like this.
You've helped me in the past an any time you need anything let me know Im only a message away if you ever want to add me on facebook. BTW the munchkin is three now an I need to show you how adorable she is...sqweee.

Awwww I'm sorry if I've ever made you feel pressured! I've never thought of it this way, but more as an "us artists gotta stick together and support each other" and whatnot. I know a lot of artists like to collect others' art in addition to doing their own. I've never meant to say my art is better than yours and you should just buy mine instead ;__;

ANYWAY I'm really sorry and I'll try not to do it again and if I do feel free to yell at me!

I want to sell you hugs. But the only currency I accept is more hugs. It's a vicious cycle. <3

Legit feelings are legit!

I hope I didn't sound like an ass when you talked about the reference sheet, I just think your characters are neato and would be like YAY if you ever commissioned me to draw some, but I TOTALLY understand the being poor thing, which is why I rarely commission other artists. But seriously your work is really nice and (please) don't let the self-promoting-you're-doing-it-wrong-folks make you feel otherwise.

People have been pushing you to buy commissions from them? That's just rude and totally unprofessional! You wait for people to come to YOU, you don't bug others. Sorry you had to deal with that.

Now totes advertise me in yo journal k??? Right???

(obviously jk)

I would think one reason people would want you to commission them would be to brag that "yeah BlueNire commissioned me wooo! that makes me awesome" ( because your art is awesome!)

and I don't think you would be a butt by asking people to stop doing things you don't like.