Ported over from furaffinity so people can fav and what not.
I am so tired hearing about the friend zone, I'm rather tired listening to "nice" guys whine about how they keep getting friend-zoned. It is just sad really.
First off, guys, women do intentionally "friend-zone" people (guys, girls, hyper-intelligent shades of blue, whatever they're into) this is not to be a cruel but rather, and this might shock you, not everyone wants to be in a relationship with someone they don't know. They want to be friends first and if you guys really are compatible maybe more. If not, heck you still got a good friend.
The other issue is guys, girls, hyper-intelligent shades of blue, you need to actually be clear about what it is you want. If you ask to hang out with someone, they will think you want to hang out. If you want to actually go out with someone ASK THEM OUT. suck it up and actually ask them out.
I have met guys that have a terrible habit where they want to hang out, and ask to hang out but really want to go on a date. The problem is they ask in such a way that they aren't told no, because it's hanging out. Yes, you might get rejected and that blows, but you got to handle that.
Unless you expect to date Jean Grey you need to be clear what your intentions are, and if you do have a crush on Jean Grey, you have bigger problems like laser eyes and getting attacked by the brotherhood of evil.
Point is, he clear up front. if you want to date then say so.
Sometimes you will get rejected, sometimes they won't be interested and will just want you as a friend. Get over it. If you want to be friends be friends. If you don't move on. Don't be friendly then secretly pissy because he/she/it/them aren't interested in a relationship with you.
Anyway the final part is the harshest and the hardest to balance. Sometimes it's you.
Those that matter in your life should accept who you are, and relationships should be supportive, but don't expect someone to want to take care of you.
Most people aren't looking for a dependent. You can get a cat for that. If you are looking for a relationship and keep getting turned down then it's time to look inward. Often you just haven't found the right type yet, that's fine, but if you're jobless, no prospects, living on a couch, or otherwise expect the person to make up for that and work hard for you...that won't happen.
People don't go into something expecting to hold someone else up.
There is the saying that you will find love when you stop looking. that's because people that do that have to learn to be okay with themselves and need to hold themselves up. They learn to be comfortable and independent, and when you do that then you will find someone that you can help up as they help you up.
If you want a relationship you need to be able to bring something to the table and being "friendly" isn't enough for that sort of commitment.
Now, all that being said. there are bitches out there that tease people and string them along. They get people to do things for them while promising that maybe if they complete this quest they'll go out. These are bitches, they are not worth your time.
If there's someone doing this to you, no matter how hot or interesting, get the fuck out. Not worth it.