Dear Anonymous L,

I'm writing this in secret. I don't want my boyfriend to know that I'm writing to you. Him and I are having trouble in the bedroom. When I say that, I of coarse mean sex. We can both perform. There is no trouble in that. The issue is the difference in our body weight and size.

I'm a Ursidae species. Or to put it, a bear. We bears are rather big: females being about 6 foot average in height. In weight, we near an average of 200 pounds. I'm sorry if I seem to be going into detail here, but I want to give you a clear understand about where Im going with this. I'm big and fat. I'm a bear. It's all natural. My boyfriend is a Mustelidae, a ferret. He is a very skinny and short guy - 4.5 foot and near 150 pound. Compared to strength, I could bench press him and he can't even lift me up from the ground. He tried to gain muscle, but due to his species background, he doesn't seem to gain any. I never thought that our size difference would hinder us in such an intimate area. We have been going out for a year and our relationship continues to grow. He is into big girls like me and I'm into skinny guys like him. We are a perfect fit in that department. But when it comes to exploring sexual positions, thats where things get complicated.

We bought a Karma Sutra book a few days ago to spice up activities in the bedroom. But the first time we tried it, it was a disaster. Most to almost all the poses in that book are physically impossible for us due to it meant for the skinny and thin. He can't lift me up and I'm not that flexible like he is. Last time we tried something complicated, I injured his back. All we could do is "cowgirl" and "doggy style". We want to do more but whenever we did, one of us gets hurt, mostly my poor ferret.

Our passion turned to depression. It got to the point where we remained clothed and our intimacy went down. I started to feel rather fat despite my species background. My boyfriend would always correct me saying that Im NOT fat. He is a dear but it doesn't really change on what I feel inside. We now just look at images in the book together, trying to find ways to get around some areas. Now and then, we tried and it always comes up as the same: him getting hurt. He got frustrated and threw the book away, blaming himself that he wasn't as strong as me.

Anonymous L, we need some help. I don't know what to do now. Even are same old positions are not spicy enough and we go through some complications. We tried way around some positions and even making up some of our own, but that doesn't work too well. Its the difference in out body weight that is causing the trouble. We love each other and we don't want that special spark to fade. What can I do? What can we do? Do you know any sex books that would help us around the size difference issue? Why do all sex books meant for people who are very skinny instead of chubby or overweight?

Please send any feedback or help that you can offer. Thank you for your time.

- Natasha