How do make friends? by BroadwayBunny

It's really weird realizing that I'm 24 and I'm having trouble trying to figure out how to make new friends.

When I was in high school I'd just strike up a conversation with anyone. But now I feel all nervous and anxious. After seeing so much crap on tumblr and had people make complete 180 personality changes on me that I met in fandoms there, I'm actually scared of basically everyone I see online. I'm nervous and suspicious.

Usually people don't talk to me because I look plain (aka I don't dye my hair or have any awesome piercings or tattoos), and they don't think my art is good enough. They've never seen how well I can cosplay, and I don't make a lot of money at all.

In other words, they don't talk to me because they can't get anything out of me.

Overall I should be happy about that, but at the same time I sit here trying to reach out to people and get consistently ignored.

Not to mention a good 90% of the people here in Florida turn out to be batshit crazy.

So this little bunny just sits here and shivers and looks around trying to figure out who is safe to talk to.

How do you guys make friends? How do you choose who to talk to?

People have been telling me I'm an introvert lately and I don't like it. I used to be so outgoing and happy. But after being physically attacked by someone I lived with who I thought was my friend, everything's kinda just gone downhill.

I don't want sympathy. I just want to make friends.

Advice anyone?

How do make friends?

BroadwayBunny

25 November 2014 at 17:16:58 MST

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  • Link

    I just start talking =D And I'm from florida, how about that?

    • Link

      that's actually pretty cool we both live in Orlando FL

      • Link

        That is pretty cool.
        I guess I'm just afraid of talking because of the last fandom I was in.
        I've noticed furries aren't like that. That's part of why I love this group so much.

        • Link

          Yeah, I do love the furry fandom for being so open and loving <3.
          What was the last fandom you were in?

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            The Once-ler fandom.
            Loved the character. Loved the movie. Out of all of the people I met, all of two of them turned out to be sane.
            It attracted an interesting group...
            A lot of them turned out to be legit psycho.

            • Link

              Ahhhh I see. That can happen alot of the time. Even here I meet some people who are a bit iffy.

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                So long as they're the kind of iffy that I can just quickly back away from, it's alright.
                One of the people I met from that fandom became my roomie. Then suddenly turned on me. And then one day, over nothing, jumped off of her barstool and tried to jump over the table to break my nose.
                Not a good situation.
                My current roomie is MUCH better.

                • Link

                  wow. Yeah never that bad. Just the normal weird people that comes with everything. Holy cow that is never a good situation to get into. Glad everything's better now =)

                  • Link

                    You and me both.
                    She was delusional and paranoid. Thought I was out to get her and that I was talking behind her back. It was weird.

                    • Link

                      Oh I see now. Yup, I've met some of those people in real life. I was talking with this user for like 3 months on another website and all of a sudden she got dark and suicidal and blamed me. But, I don't know, people are like that. I just keep doing what I'm doing and try to make as many friends as possible =3

                      • Link

                        Yeah. True.
                        I feel like there didn't used to be as many people like that. They're just coming out of the woodwork.
                        The weird thing is, on sites like tumblr, they think it's cool to be like that. They idolize having mental disorders and think being all dark and suicidal like that is 'cool' and 'edgy'.
                        I personally don't get it. What's so great about being unhappy and ill?

                        Of course, nothing against people who actually HAVE the disorders and are working to get better. I'm talking about all of the fakers.

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                          I know! I never understood why people thinks it's awesome and cool to have mental disorders. I have several friends who are actually afflicted with mental disorders and depression, and it gives them a bad name. I don't understand why dark and weird is becoming a thing now, and I wish it wouldn't.

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                            A LOT of things are becoming a thing that shouldn't be. For example, being transgender.
                            My roomie actually IS trans, but they don't want to come out and say it to anyone for fear of being lumped in with the 'trans-trenders'. All of the kids who think it's cool to say they're trans when they're really not.

                            If you're not something or you don't have something, don't say you are/have it, you know?
                            It's just not right.

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                              Oh absolutely. It really contributes to the overall feeling of any group of people that I hate. I'm open to all people, no matter what orientation, whatever, but when people are just faking it to be 'cool' it makes them look ignorant and dense. People should just be themselves, and stop trying to fit in with the norm.

                              • Link

                                Exactly.
                                I wish I could high five you right now. XD

                                • Link

                                  Someone who understanndddssss

                                  my name's Kirito glad to meetcha!

                                  • Link

                                    You can call me Broadway.
                                    Nice to meet you too!

                                    • Link

                                      =D new friends yayyy

                                      • Link

                                        Yaay~
                                        Didn't realize posting this would make me a new friend.
                                        Awesomeness~

                                        • Link

                                          Awesomeness indeed. Feel free to drop a PM or request some art anytime =)

                                          • Link

                                            Okie dokie then~
                                            I look forward to talking to you more.

                                            • Link

                                              Absolutely!

                                              • Link

                                                ~accepted btw