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I hate being anxious and shy by Poifish
I hate that the internet has made me super scared to voice my opinions to anyone I haven't known super long or anyone I know will possibly blow up at me. I just like.. I don't want to step on toes. I don't want people angry with me. I don't want people forming these half-assed personal opinions of me because I worded something wrong or they took something I said out of context or in a wrong way. And I'm encountering that a lot lately.
I start typing out comments and replies to people and to journals and stuff and just delete it cause I'm so nervous and shy. But I just want to talk to people and make friends and explore new possibilities in friendships and ideas.
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it's super hard. I feel doubt while I write things and I get like.. anxious to the point of butterflies and knots in my stomach and throat. I have bad social anxiety that flares up in many situations. ; ~ ;
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I feel the same way a lot of the time. I don't like making waves, but sometimes you have to.
I find it best to start with puddles, and work my way up. ^^; It's hard to put yourself out there!-
Yes. It is hard but more than like stating my opinions or making waves I just wanna make friends.
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Man, I am the exact same way. I never even said a damn word on FA most of the time because of it. I think Weasyl is helping me out of that a little bit. ;u;
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dA rp groups helped me. Tumblr set me back years and made my anxieties worse. FA helped tumblr in that. And I just joined weasyl a few days ago. I'm working on it.
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Yeah. I joined Weasyl the 21st of last month, but only became more active here in the last couple of days. It's just.. so welcoming here and I can't feel the heaviness and intimidation here that FA had
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Yea. I get that feeling too but the layout is a bit strange/confusing at first. Not hard or complicated. Maybe it's because it's very clean that it feels harder to understand?
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Yeah, but I often get confused by things I'm not yet used to. But this site is still in beta, so I can't say that things won't get easier!
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I know how you feel hun. It's alright. I have super bad anxiety too where my nerves make my body do crazy things (like hives and stomach aches etc...) I even have anxiety typing this comment right now haha.
It's okay to feel this way, I'm very bad with words and don't feel smart enough to voice opinions either. You're definitely not alone. Also you seem like a sweet person, I'D BE YOUR FRIEND. Even though I'm super shy too. I'd still do it haha. ohmygosh;; /hides face.
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I just get like.. shaky and the urge to cry and I have trouble breathing. I'm lucky enough that I don't get like hives and stuff though that sounds like it sucks! Q < Q
I'd love to try and be frans. We can maybe skype or just message through weasyl? Does weasyl have a priv-message type system? EVERYTHING IS SO NEW. //cries
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cuddles WELL if you had any reservations about commenting on any of my stuff, I can promise my toes won't be stepped on or anything! <3! Feel free to speak your mind! X3
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I'm pretty much the same, I pretty much didn't talk on FA at all! I'm trying to break that habit on weasyl but it's still hard sob
It's just weird because irl I'm super chatty? like crazily so but the second I go on the internet I clam up haha-
I'm super chatty and moody when I'm comfortable with people. Especially in voice calls and stuff. It is very jarring realizing how scared and vulnerable I feel /typing/ things online because of the communities and stuff. I just wanna be frans with people and have fun.
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I can see where you're coming from dude, kinda why I hide very often even on skype and what not cause talking's pretty difficult all on its own. Don't ever feel bad for the feelings you can't control. Cause it takes time for you to change those things when you feel you can. So you just do what you can, don't force yourself too much okay? No one's gonna hate you for this. ;u;
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I know. I've actually had a few people get mad at me for not talking a lot and stuff before though or being afraid of putting myself out there but it's super hard. I think it frustrates me most cause I've not been like this my whole life. It's developed over the past 4 years.
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Dude, I fucking understand so hard... like... that whole thing. I'm kinda the same way ya know? Like... not to be all 'ME TOO ME TOO' or anything like that, but I can get where you're coming from and I've had that similar 'you're too introverted for me' sort of thing happen. I understand tho... like a lot ;-; and the fact it hasn't been around for most of your life...ugh /hugs
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Yeah. Like not to be like 'oh pity me' or 'woe is me', cause the subject actually doesn't bother me. But it developed when I moved away from my family who stressed me out and my father died. And I'm trying to work through it but I've kind of become a hermit since then and people almost constantly scare me in most cases. I can get along with a general number of artists though. ; ~;
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Damn, I'm really sorry to hear something like that happened. In a way I can see where it stems from and why it probably began to develop. Trauma and big changes can do a lot to a person, but you're very strong to even be talking to me and a few others on this journal ya know? Even if it may seem like it's not a lot, but you're still devoting your time and typing out what you feel and that is a success you should note!I've found that congratulating one's self for the small things tends to help out quite a bit!
I can kinda say where my bullshit stems from but it's just too much to even think about vuv <3 Just so you know, I'm always here for you man. If you need someone to talk to about these things, I can help in whatever way I can. I'd really love to chat more ;/u/; And you seem really cool! I wanna be able to at least help you branch out in whatever way if I can <3
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I say screw them all and say whatever you want, I think it's wrong for anyone to get bit at just because one wanted to state their opinion, I mean an opinion is just an opinion right? It's not a demand or a "Oh this should be this way and if you don't like it, well you're wrong rawr!"
I mean I don't blame you, sometimes I get a bit anxious as well...but after all that had been happening, I kinda went whatever and kept on going, there's almost always someone out there who want to either be a jerk, or start something just to cause some sort of drama!
Sorry if Im rambling here or if Im sounding too aggressive XD I just figured I should voice out an opinion, also I would LOVE to be your friend, you seem like a really cool person to talk to!
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Oh gods. I think I was beaten down on tumblr a lot and by the aggressive/toxic members of social justice. I've been told to die for asking questions and voicing opinions. I'm already a super anxious person so I don't like conflict in huge quantities and I try to voice my opinion when I feel it really means something but if it'll just get people to not like me over something petty I prefer to not.
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Well Tumblr is full of pricks >> and I don't think I've heard of Social Justice.
Also that is horrible for someone to say that to you, I don't think anyone should deserve that kind of backlash! I mean someone telling another to go die over an opinion? Jeeze...I understand and don't blame you, still that's not right for one to not being able to express their own opinion!
As for me, I except opinions and I will not bite at anyone for it! I take opinions as a way of someone trying to help, or some sort of helpful feedback!
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Social Justice is akin to feminism and the like. It's justice for those in society, basically? Except tumblr is very narrow-viewed on it in my opinion.
I'm fine. It was a long time ago. I just have bad days where I don't wanna voice things in case I make a bad rep for myself.
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OOOooohhh okay I knew that sounded familiar, and yeah Tumblr is usually narrow-minded on certain subjects >>; that included.
Well at least it's over with? and it was long ago? hugs Well im sure you won't get a bad Rep over here, this community is so friendly, and so far I have yet to run into anything bad!
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I'm more shy offline than I am online, but I totally get what you mean...! I'm especially shy around people I look up to...
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It depends for me in a real life stand point. I'm very timid offline but if prodded I'm more likely to talk in an offline situation than online.
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I'm quiet a ton offline but if someone tries talking to me I'll try to reply.... but offline I'm ..pretty awkward to talk to ahah;;; I have a bit of a problem with having eye contact and sometimes I don't hear correctly ...
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