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How do you get rid of Annoying People? by ilbv

I wonder how many people clicked on this thinking this is about them.

Look, I deal with a lot in my own life and for the most part I try very hard to keep it there.
I don't want to have to be the person to hear more bad news from other people without warning anymore.

It's different if I ask. If I ask someone how they are doing and they say not well and I ask why, well then naturally I'd like to know what's up.

But I am tired of people I barely know running to me when bad things happen, its different if its someone I know and (don't mean to be offensive) care about. If you are my friend (and I mean I've known you a long time) then we have given each other full trust and its okay to be as raw as we want.

Okay yes, I do care about ALL people, and I want happiness for everyone (impossible wish I know) the thing is I can't keep being the giver of happiness with everyone, or the receiver of your bad news and woe-is-me life; it's never going to happen and no one is ever going to be happy all the time no matter what I say or not.

The problem that I'm having is: is this a wrong thing of me to say? Am I suddenly a villain for wishing to have some personal space and want all the strangers to back off?
Should I just suck it up and be nice to everyone? Not that I want to be rude at all, but I am wary of new people.

The real kicker is, I am more than likely this exact same person to someone else. Some guy who pesters someone to no end but they are too polite to tell me to leave them alone.
I mean if someone did tell me that, yes I would probably feel hurt and offended, so now taking that feeling and switching it completely around, who am I to wish the exact same thing on other people?
Talk about hypocrisy and double-sided!

So maybe I have answered my own questions and couldn't really understand them unless I wrote it all out.

Accept people for who they are and all their quirks and weirdness and just deal with the fact that they want to be with you.

ugghhhhhhh, but see this statement? Do we actually have to live like this? Where is the boundary? Where can personal space exist? Where can politeness end and give room to peace of mind? Because we cannot change people, but we can change the people we see. That is why the block feature is a thing.

So should I just block all the weirdoes and people who drive me nuts? As nice as that sounds, HOW DAMN RUDE! I mean they haven't done anything really wrong, I am just annoyed by things they do or say, and I wouldn't want someone to block me for that kind of stuff, so why would I do that to someone else?

No, I only use my block list for trolls, spammers, and scammers. Even people who have blocked me are not on my block list because I am hoping that one day they will want to talk about it and work something out. I believe in making peace with those I have angered, if they believe in the same thing, then they will reach out to me, I wouldn't be able to reach out to them because I've been blocked, see how that works?

Now the thing is with this journal, people are going to read it and automatically fall into one of these categories:

  1. Oh this doesn't apply to me exit journal
  2. oh my gosh I need to comment/send him a note or Skype message to ask if this is about me because I am concerned.
  3. cries and hides in a corner
  4. This must be about me so I'll just remove myself from his life and not say anything he is better off without me.
  5. Oh my gosh I feel the SAME WAY! Here is my opinion...
  6. What a jerk! (or some other explicative) unwatch/block

    any maybe there are more categories, but I think I've pretty much said all I need to at the present time.

    Off the top of my head I could deal with annoying people by a few methods already, I could just tell them to leave me alone (rude) or I could just ignore them (mega rude) and hope they would get the hint and leave me alone.

    I'm at this point not going to do anything, but this whole journal should generate some interesting conversation and probably accusations and guilt trips too, but it is something I've had on my mind for a while and I really need some opinion on it.

    I just seriously wish I wasn't bothered by anyone in the first place, then there really would be no issue at all.

How do you get rid of Annoying People?

ilbv

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    "I appreciate your concern. Don't take this personally, however you are not the person I wish to discuss this with."

    Is usually what I say, or something similar.