Are You Special?

If you identify with the foregoing depiction, the following may be helpful to your self-healing:

-- you cannot assess your specialness to someone on the basis of their meeting your expectations

-- accept that not being given special treatment does not diminish you or the affection someone may have toward you

-- acknowledge your hurt without blaming the other person

-- accept that being disappointed is a human reaction to having expectations of others that are not met

-- do not evaluate the relationship on the basis of a single disappointment

-- do your own inner homework by asking yourself: have you ever felt special; is it easy for you to feel special; do you easily trust people; do you think that you are worthy of being considered special?

Once you are able to understand your history and connect it with your current behavior, patterns may begin to emerge. As you acknowledge your early emotional wounds, longings, and unmet desires, healing can begin. Without such healing you may be prone to repeating the same drama repeatedly in various relationships making intimacy difficult.

(Excerpt from an article by Edward A. Dreyfus, Clinical Psychologist)

If you think this is about everyone but you... chances are it's about you.