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Asexuality Awareness Week by farorenightclaw

Hey guys, it's Asexuality Awareness Week!

So hi! I'm demisexual. Feel free to ask me stuff about being demisexual! Demisexuality is defined as a lack of primary sexual attraction, meaning that I don’t feel sexual attraction to people I don’t know. In fact, I require an emotional bond with someone to find them sexually attractive! It’s on the ace spectrum, though not actually asexuality per se.

I’m also stone, which ties into my demisexuality to a degree.

Please also share your stories if you feel able to!

Asexuality Awareness Week

farorenightclaw

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    BlackStatic

    Pansexual here, previously had a demisexual partner. Never heard the term "stone" though, if you don't mind explaining that one a bit?

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      farorenightclaw

      Stone is usually used in reference to butches and butch lesbians; it basically means someone who is not comfortable with being sexually touched or pleasured, themselves, during sex. For me, it means that it takes someone very special to 'melt my stone' - make me okay with being pleasured or even orgasming in the same room with them. With most partners, I prefer to focus my attention on them and refrain from having them touch or pleasure me sexually. I also tend to prefer to stay at least partially clothed, though that's not necessarily true for all stone folks. Hope that explains it a bit!

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        BlackStatic

        melt my stone

        Ah! That explains it nicely enough!

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        SINA

        Interesting I had never heard of that term before. Thanks for sharing.

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    Baree

    Heh. There's a week for that? I personally have no desire to look for a partner, and I have no sense of physical attraction. So I consider myself to be asexual. But hey, I recently got my wizards license :P

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    spoonface

    I've been ace for as long as I can remember, even in my teens, before I knew what asexuality was, I wanted to pursue relationships that'd be "platonic" in nature, i.e. not involving sex. I was also super shy and had poor self-esteem which didn't help finding partners (also my crushes at the time were p shallow).

    I thiiiink I'm aromantic but I still tend to get crushes on women and femme people (tho I don't really act on them).

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      farorenightclaw

      Have you heard the term 'squish'? It's like a platonic crush. Where maybe you wish to be closer to the person, maybe want to engage in activities like hand-holding or cuddling, maybe just want to be friends with them. Does that maybe fit the profile of your crushes more than romantic desire?

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        spoonface

        Yeah, a squish might be a closer term, haven't really thought about it much. xD