Friends... I'm going to try to be as neutral as I can be here.
It would appear that recent issues have torn some of us asunder.
If you would care to read any further (many won't, and will settle for their own assumptions, making complete fools of themselves as they comment below), I might be able to clear some things up...
...But before doing so, please understand ONE thing. This is NOT an attempt to criminalize any one person. On the contrary, this is an attempt to bring clarity to BOTH angry sides in order to deminish the level of anger and prejudice that has resulted from the discussions of current dramatical issues.
ALSO, please keep in mind that, like EVERY SINGLE ONE OF YOU (the only ones who know for SURE are the two involved), I am writing this letter utilizing the limited information that had been made known to me.
What we have here is a situation that is, in many peoples' minds, unresolved. We have the words of an intentionally private, yet LEAKED note of one party vs. the written summarization of the other party. Either could be true, and EITHER could be a lie, half the truth, the bending of the truth, etc. THUS, we have a 50/50 POSSIBILITY of a PROBLEM.
THIS IS A PROBLEM... THAT CANNOT BE SOLVED WITHOUT CONFESSION.
Sad, but true, the only other way to know for SURE, and without doubt of fabrication of what happened, would be to have video or vocal recordings of what happened-- something we shall NEVER obtain.
For most, this is reason to dismiss the entire issue, because if there's no evidence then there is no problem. BUT HERE'S THE KICKER-- there IS still 50% possibility of a problem! And to MANY, if the problem DID happen, then it a HUUUUUGE issue.
Allow me to explain perspectives of both sides....
SIDE A opinions:
1.) If the accused is innocent, the accused will be subject to ridicule from hundreds-- if not thousands-- of people for a crime he did not commit. This is a nightmare that could happen to ANYONE. Nobody likes the possibility that a party, simply seeking revenge for a broken heart, could achieve the destruction of another's social stature by playing a victim.
2.) There is no OFFICIAL court evidence. Why take sides when the law itself has not taken one? Nobody wants to be part of an angry mob shrouded by ignorance.
3.) This could be net drama that has gone out of hand. We've all seen how angry outbursts thrive on the internet. Sometimes they are legit, but other times it's just social justice warriors making mountains out of mole hills.
4.) A criminal will get away with it. A person will be wrongly accused of taking advantage of someone, and the accuser will be free to wrongfully villify someone else.
SIDE B opinions:
1.) If the accused is guilty, then the other party member is a victim of manipulation. They victim was coerced into a sexual act that they were initially unwilling to partake in. If this is the case, it is simply disgusting.
2.) There is no OFFICIAL court evidence -- and there NEVER will be. Even though the victim was coerced, that is still counted as "willing" in a court of law -- this still DOES NOT make it right.
3.) There are apparently SEVERAL other women who claim to have been treated THE SAME WAY by the accused, but they FEAR coming forward, because they DO NOT want the negative attention. Many women claim to have suffered from or witnessed similar behavior from the accused, claiming his disregard for "I have a boyfriend" and "No", but they are too afraid to come forward, for fear of public ridicule. To them, doing so would be like dawning the scarlett letter.
4.) A criminal will get away with it. A person will have been violated, and the accused will be free to possibly take advantage of other women.
There is also a third side, who feel that there is MORE than just a sexual immorality issue....
SIDE C opinions:
1.) The accused is a huge jerk. Many feel that the accused has been extremely rude to those who have spoken to him IRL and online. Reports of rude comments, unnecessarily demeaning ridicule of character, public fan-snubbing, and more have surfaced around the accused's behavior, making him a narcissistic, sociopathic jerk in their eyes, unfit for the job to which he has been assigned.
2.) The accused is not really qualified for the job. Many feel the accused is unprofessional, and not as knowledgeable about the coding of the site, and are upset that the original team has left after having enough of the accused's attitude.
3.) Outside of the issue of the accused, there have been OTHER major problems with the site, which leaves few reasons to stay. The site has gone down numerous times, sometimes for weeks/months. There have been claims that there has been harbouring of a convicted animal abuser. There have been many promises unfulfilled. Many feel there have been several instances of abuse of power with post deletions, favoritism, and unwarranted user bannings.
************WARNING!!! INCOMING PERSONAL OPINIONS!!*************
Here is the kicker...
YOU ALL HAVE THE RIGHT TO STAY... AND YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO GO.
If you give someone shit for EITHER choice.... you are an asshole.
People who want to STAY have the RIGHT to not give a shit about what happened, whether they believe it happened or not. It is NOT their duty to take action, and any attempts to villainize them basically makes YOU a FUCKING DOUCHEBAG who is trying to FORCE someone to believe as you do. Just because you have certain standards DOES NOT mean that everyone else HAS to live up to them.
People who want to GO have the RIGHT to go, because they see legitimate proof of the steady decline of this community. To call them "foolish," dewatch their galleries, and retract your support of their work makes YOU a FUCKING DOUCHEBAG who is inconsiderate of another person's opinions/choices (which, mind you, are at least 50% correct -- possibly MORE if lumped with the beliefs of SIDE C), unworthy of being an artist's fan in the first place. If you enjoy an artist's work, PROVE it and support them no matter WHERE they go, unless they offend you PERSONALLY.
I am hoping that I have brought perspective to both sides of this argument. My one request is that, regarless of what decisions are made, everyone PLEASE be respectful of the decisions others are making. Anything beyond that, and you are simply CREATING and SPREADING unnecessary negativity.
"But GuNMouTH, what is YOUR opinion on the current DRAMA ISSUE?"
I can only tell you my own experiences with this guy that everyone's had a problem with (the accused)... First of all, he has snubbed me every time I have seen him in person. He would approach my former fiance and I, I would say "Hey man, what's up?", and he would give me this "Ew" look and turn away to talk to my former fiance. Despite how lousy that made me feel each time, I am understanding of the fact that simple-minded creatures cannot fathom my incomprehensible beauty~ fart sound.
I was, however, a little less accepting of the creepy questions he would ask my former fiance over AIM. And while I do not know EVERYTHING they talked about, I cannot help but wonder what else may have been discussed.
My personal experiences, coupled with what I have heard from other women who have spoken with him, have left me to make my own... personal... silent conclusions...
Good luck to ALL of you in making your own.
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