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Maybe a little late, but hopefully honest? by Iridium
Ah, not sure how to start this, or how to say it, but I think it's past time I asked something like this and talked about it.
It's come to my attention that some people, some people very dear to me, some people I consider friends and great people, are under the impression that I do not like (or stronger negatives) them. I don't know how I've given off this impression, but I try to be open about my feelings towards others, and I've always tried to be approachable to friends even, particularly!, when we may not be getting along. I don't want this to fester any more, if it is, so I'm asking, if you do feel this way, or believe I feel this way, contact me. You can reply here or send a note or use my email (which I hope you have).
This journal has its genesis in a few conversations, one of which opened my eyes to this situation, a very real sense of disconnect to a lot of great people of my own making, and some generalized farewells from other folks who I really admire and care for. I fully admit that the last several years, since 2008 at least, but particularly since 2011, I have been almost invisible online to a lot of my furry friends. There are a lot of different reasons for that, most of them selfish, so I apologize for my lack of being around.
As I stand on the precipice of losing another family member (my last grandparent), it occurs to me that life's too short for being socially reclusive. I also realize that social inertia is hard to overcome (getting out of hermit mode will be difficult). But there are a lot of nifty people out there, and their awesomeness deserves more/better attention from me.
It would probably be a good idea to relegate private conversations to notes or email. I'll do my best to answer them.
I will also open the floor here to more generalized questions. Please try to avoid sexual or fetish-y questions, and please do not expect me to RP. Thanks.
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We don't talk much, but that's okay, I've felt we were acquaintances, since we have a few friends in common but we don't really talk. I'm kind of an introvert, myself, so I'm guilty of being quiet for long periods of time. Anyway, I know you through a few friends, and we played some video games a few times. And I'm okay with that, too. I've never felt any negativity from you, if that's what you're asking. If we're being blunt, I thought you were honest and fairly easy to get along with. I just assumed life has you busy lately for one reason or another. And I don't really like to pry into people's personal affairs, so I felt it awkward to ask. I should however make more of an effort to remind people that they are awesome. So there's a perspective. I guess I could have summed this up with an outdated meme of the portal turret saying "I don't hate you." but that seemed like a lot of effort for something that may come across as insensitive. Especially to someone I do not know that well.
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Thank you, Den. I definitely appreciate the effort put into your response. I've enjoyed our games together with Elrabin, killing skaven, zombies, and other stuff. I'm sure we'll game again. World of Tanks, World of Warships, and Armored Warfare hold my gaming attention right now.
As for life, yes, it has been busy, but not so busy to cause me to disappear. I need to work on that.
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Well, I am glad to hear you are alright for the most part, if a little too busy for your liking. I too am that way sometimes, and I just decide that some nights I don't have the effort it takes to be me, so I don't come around, when I guess i really should be even a tiny bit social. Anyway, the important part is that you are alright.
I went through a similar situation a few years ago when I lost a few people in my life, and I wasn't sure what to do about it, or even how I am supposed to feel. Just one right after the other after the other. No time to mourn one and another had passed. It seems like so long ago, yet I can remember it like it happened a few minutes ago.
That's enough navel gazing for now.
I think you are right. Being there for people, even when you don't have a lot of time is very important.
I think I should remind more people I know that they are awesome and are still in my thoughts. So this is me telling you that you are awesome.
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We rarely talk, but I certanly don't dislike or hate you. I know alot of folks that are introvert (including myself for that matter!), so it comes as no surprise to have quiet folks around.
So yeah.. do not worry, big Wuff. I still think yer cool ~-
Thank you, Abby. n.n
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Hello from another hermit!
You know I'm fine with you! The lack of talking is our own combined "not online as much" for our own reasons. I am with you on wanting to try to break out of the habit of hiding. It's a hard habit to break, admittedly.
So here's hoping we actually do that. For the sake of bigness and whatnot. :)
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And I'm a month late in responding. Oy, definitely have a lot of work to do.
I hope you're being more successful at this than I!
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I'm actually kind of going through the same thing and I wish you well on this endeavor.
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Thank you, and good luck to you as well.
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This is a situation I'm trying my best to likewise get out of. Rest assured I've always thought you were a fine being, and hope for the best for you as I do for myself!
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Thank you kindly, Klesk. You've been an upstanding gentleman yourself when we've talked.
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Xilimyth
I know I've been SUPER reclusive, but I hope I'm not considered in that group O_O