People in all branches of relationships need a good connection, a chemistry. If its there, you can make amazing friends. If it isn't there, its near darn impossible to make work.

From what I know about relationships is that they take two people to both work on it. And you do actually have to make it a priority to get to know someone, because if you don't do that then it can fall through and it dies, but also you have to invest some time and discovery into people to see if they are "your kind of people".

This is an example I've had with some good friends, please pardon my fire analogy x)
I've made some friends where that excitement of seeing them everyday kept the fire going, and eventually we settled into a happy comfortable friendship that we can have the fire smoulder as embers and we are content with each other, easily able to make flames again if we are in the mood to have a fun adventure together or just t chill and chat generally, even enjoy each others company quietly. Never letting our fire go out of course.

And with some friends we are at a comfortable place where we can pick up where we leave off and catch up and enjoy having each other in our lives, not always constantly, but there and involved in a way. Its nice and special to have all these levels of friendships.

I find it is harder to have conversations and connections without a messenger, but I've built some good relationships with Notes in the past, mind they eventually migrate to Skype, Telegram, what-have-you. Even Facebook Messenger is at least something to show that the person you are talking with is right there, you can have a real-time conversation. Its nice and convenient.

At least with Notes, you can send what you want to say and you can see when someone has read it and eagerly await their reply. I've always said that if someone left me a Note, I will see it and be able to reply to it when I am next available to.

One word/sentence notes make me squirm, I can't handle them and people just don't seem to think that's irksome or a useful way of communicating, to me it establishes nothing but my impression that its probably someone who just wants to rp with me and eventually beg me to draw them in art or have sex with one of my characters. Ugh. No. Those people are probably hormonal teens who have no idea how the internet works, obviously through my years here I have learned to give chances sometimes second or third ones and just to hear everyone out. I want to be given chances, so it made sense to give out what I want back you know? If people show they are not what I'm looking for in a connection, I say so and leave it at that. One thing that has solidly imprinted on me is that it is impossible to please everyone and you will not always have people like you. And that's hard for me because I want to be liked, and I want to feel important to people. Just got to roll with how things work out I suppose.

I understands that IMs are not easy for everyone. I like Telegram cause I can use it on my phone when my laptop is off, which I use for Skype mainly. Notes are easier to use on my laptop because I can type faster, but I can still Note on my phone too. Provided of course there is Wifi cause I'm poor and have no Data x)