This picture is more of an easy-to-find journal than a pic, as I wanted to use it to explain my experiences in interacting with other artists in comments and when asking about commissions.

As many of you know, I enjoy pics of characters suffering clothing malfunctions/ loss, mostly with diapers. Unsurprisingly, many artists aren’t comfortable with this, many of them considering it NSFW. Personally, I never intend for any of my suggestions to be NSFW, with scenic censorship in use or simply not drawing anything dirty.

Despite this, should an artist decline my commission due to them not liking the concept, I will respect their choices and not bother them about it again. This is a policy that everyone should follow, don’t keep pestering the artist to draw what they declined, this will likely lead to them blocking you.

I recall one sad incident where, when I was sitting up bored one night, I got on my computer and sent a message to one artist I previously asked if they could do a silly diaper loss pic. They had refused already, but since they had cute characters, I asked them again. They politely declined once again and I realized how rude I was to have pestered them about this a second time. I cannot apologize enough to them. As such, I have attempted to restrict my amount of contact with them.

This is another thing I keep in mind, respecting an artist’s space. There are many artists out there I would love to endlessly comment on their works or note them about what they will and won’t draw, however, unless they’re close friends of mine, I try to limit the amount of times I contact them. I’m always wary of annoying an artist with constant chatting, as I myself have experienced from some artists before. Because of this, I usually only contact artists for commissions, or leaving one comment in a series of posts, unless they are close friends, as I mentioned.

There are also times when in notes/ direct messages, I can sense an artist is annoyed by my responses. One case was a YCH commission, I said I wanted one color, but the artist then informed me I would get both colors, though the way I read it sounded like he was annoyed by my lack of understanding of his YCH. When I feel I’ve annoyed an artist this way, I try to avoid interacting with them to prevent myself from upsetting them more, which is a safe path to take if you feel you’ve annoyed someone.

A curious case similar to this lesson occurred with at least two artists. I contacted both of these artists and asked them if they were okay with drawing their OCs suffering diaper loss (or allow another commissioned artist to draw their OCs in a similar situation). However, I never got a response from either of them. This is most likely due to the fact they rarely check their notes, or they simply have so much mail they missed my message. When I see these artists on Streams and such, I sometimes privately ask them if they see my message, though I don’t push it to hard on them.

For this situation, I feel it’s best to just let the artist be and only very rarely bring it up to them, such as on the streams mentioned above. DO NOT continuously send them a message every day asking them if they got your message, this will likely infuriate them. I also can’t help but feel the reason they never responded is because they are shocked by my commission ideas (despite the fact it’s meant to be NSFW) and refuse to contact me because of that. If that is the case, then I will respect that.

I will say this again, the diaper loss idea is meant to be humorous, not NSFW.

Finally, this tip if for babyfur and diaperfur fans, respecting the artist’s view on diapers. Just because an artist draws characters in diapers doesn’t automatically make them a babyfur or diaperfur. Some artists only draw diapers because their character is an infant or it is merely a commission. I recall several artists who criticized me because I was commenting mostly about the diapers, when they aren’t diaperfurs or babyfurs.

As a result of this, unless it’s an artist whom I know is perfectly comfortable with diapers, I try to avoid bringing up the diapers in comments to avoid potentially upsetting the artist. Instead, when I do comment, I try and look for other things in the picture to admire, such as the well drawn characters, colors, or textures.

Try looking through an artist’s gallery and checking descriptions to see if you can find any clues on their views on diapers. Journals frequently contain this information too. You could also try sending them a friendly note inquiring about it, just make sure to mind your manners and respect their choice.

Also, sometimes you can find this information in conversations with them as well, such as this:

“There’s more to the guy than just his diapers”

This right here is a pretty big indicator that you should take it easy on diaper-related comments. To be fair though, unless they say otherwise, it is often possible you can still get diaper-based commissions from them, just make sure to check with them first.

There was one instance where an artist said he was fine with drawing diapers as long as they weren’t messy. Yet, I could sense that I was adding unease to him by commissioning a diaper related commission, like a sixth sense. Because of this, I’m going to try and avoid commissioning diaper art from him unless this feeling of mine is proven wrong.

There you go, a lot of these experiences are based on my own senses, but it does offer genuinely good lessons every artist should follow as well. I hope this post will enlighten many viewers.